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hissandtell - 2005-01-21 20:37:27
Darling, I intended to leave you a note yesterday but I didn't get back to it. What these people are doing is a subtle but still immensely degrading form of workplace harrassment, and neither you nor anyone else should be putting up with it at all. Prepare a speech and stick to it, and tell them to fuck off and shut up until you've had your say. You do not need to explain your own fragility in terms of an eating disorder or anything else - they are breaking the law and engaging in the bullying of a co-worker. Some of their comments, in this country at least, would result in administrative action if you chose to complain. You need to tell them they are being rude and inconsiderate and that you are aware of every little bullying nuance that comes out of their evil mouths, no matter how they try to disguise it as caring concern. Illustrate your speech by addressing their own insecurities, by pointing out that everyone has their little hobby-horses they could so easily criticise about others if it were not vulgar to do so - for some people it might be, say, crooked teeth, or freckles, or red hair, or stuttering, or acne scarring, or squinty eyes, or just plain fucking RUDENESS, or whatever. Don't hesitate to use their own physical imperfections as examples - I promise you it will kill them. Say how easy it would be to talk endlessly about someone else's varicose veins or saggy tits or bags under their eyes, but that you'd never do that because personal remarks are odious in all circumstances, not to mention illegal in the workplace. Hit 'em where it hurts. Seriously, write your script and practise it in front of a mirror, and then go for the jugular. Stop feeling like shit around them and never, ever sit there quietly or leave the room to get away from them. Drive them away if you have to, but don't listen to their crap for a moment longer. Love, R xxx
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Ms. Brazil - 2005-01-21 20:58:02
hi teacherlady, i am so sorry you had such a terrible day today. really, i am the verge of tears myself. this is terrible. i am sorry you have to have lunch with such shallow people. i think you should have a relaxing lunch in your portable-take a break from them! i can tell just from your diary what a great person you are- and i love that you have your picture in your profile- i was so happy when i saw it- i thought- she looks really nice! you are a beautiful woman just the way you are. If you want to change, do it, but do it only for yourself. i feel uncomfortable with people who are obsessed with body image- i could never have lunch with people like that. anyway, please stop being sad. Fuck them- they are idiots, and you are great!! Enjoy your weekend!! And call in sick Monday :-) Ms. Brazil
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Stephanie - 2005-01-22 09:33:13
Hey, I'm really sorry about your day yesterday. I just got to checking my Buddy List on Diary Land (It for some reason won't let me view my diary). But, after I read your entry, I started to feel really bad. I hope everything works out! If you ever wanna talk, I'm always around...unless if I'm grounded, but, I'm trying my hardest not to get grounded. Take Care! Stephanie
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